"A Texas sign company, hoping to get some extra attention for its business, has created a truck decal featuring a woman bound and tied.
A Texas sign company, hoping to get some extra attention for its business, has created a truck decal featuring a woman bound and tied.
The decal shows a blonde woman in jeans curled up on the bed of a pickup truck, her hair obscuring her face and her hands and feet tied with rope. It’s meant to be slapped on a truck’s tailgate, creating an optical illusion of an actual woman lying in distress.” -HuffPost article
There’s a petition, here, directing the dickhead owner to cease and desist.
Anonymous asked: how do you know if you are in a bad relationship? what do you do when you are so confused about life in general and know you want to improve and be better, but don't know how? how do you know if a quality you don't like about yourself is something that can be changed, or if you should just accept that it is who you are?
Sorry this has taken me so long to get to. I had to really think about all of the questions and kind of do some internal searching for the answers.
How do you know if you are in a bad relationship?
Here’s the thing: if you’re asking this, it’s probably bad. But maybe it’s not quite so easy to figure out. So how do you know? Well, how does the relationship cause you to feel? If you are afraid of your partner — their anger or their loyalty or their moods or behavior — it’s bad. Relationships are supposed to help you feel safe. They are supposed to help you feel GOOD and highlight and bring out the best in you. Being in a relationship is supposed to be a fun and positive thing. Sure, there are fights and disagreements, but they should not be the majority of the relationship. In truth, love is boring. It’s not high-highs and low-lows, up and down all the time. It’s not all extreme emotion. In fact, it’s quite calm and comfortable. Anything else is likely obsession or addiction.
What do you do when you are so confused about life in general and know you want to improve and be better, but don’t know how?
I hate to say it, but I don’t think this really goes away. That isn’t to say it’s impossible to figure out, but life in general is confusing — there are really never going to be universal truth answers that you discover and magically understand your paths and behavior. It’s just that confusion is normal, it’s a totally acceptable state of mind to have at ANY phase in life and to say otherwise just causes those people who are confused to feel hopeless. But if you want to change, if you want to have just a little more clarity for yourself: start with the problem. What do you want to improve? What steps can you take toward making that issue less prominent, less harmful? My suggestion, if it’s emotional, is therapy. Therapy has helped me filter through the fog and depression and confusion like nobody’s business. Having a space in your life once a week to talk to a non-judging person about ANYTHING is incredibly liberating, it’s FREEING and it works. Try that out if you feel up to it. Otherwise, keep messaging me.
How do you know if a quality you don’t like about yourself is something that can be changed, or if you should just accept that it is who you are?
I personally believe that change is always possible. Some things, like depression or any kind of health issue, may not always be in our control to shift or change. But we can try. If you’re sick (and have access to healthcare), you can go to a doctor. If you’re depressed, you can seek help. There are steps to take to try and see if those things are treatable, if they are malleable. The thing that I discovered in my lowest moment, when I attempted suicide, was that I always had a CHOICE. That I could choose not always what happened to me, but how to react to it. If someone slaps me, I can’t change that it hurts — however, I can change how I react after that. I can control that.
If there’s something you don’t like about yourself, I suggest two things: 1) Be aware of it, be conscious of it, and try to see if it’s a behavior or reaction or tick or whatever that you can change in the moment. See if you can guide yourself away from it. 2) Learn to love it. This isn’t easy. But there’s a reason that this thing, this quality, is in you. Learn what that is — some people lie a lot because they were lied to, some people hit others because they were hit. These aren’t excuses, but they are correlations, and understanding them can help someone heal and change behaviors. That’s certainly not a scientific analysis, but it’s the best I’ve got.
I hope any of that helps. Please feel free to message me anything in the future. That goes for anyone reading this.
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The bravest woman on Earth.
You know what, after she woke up in the hospital, the first damn thing she did was start reading and writing again. She is so brave.
"I like it, a man who’s not swayed by facts."
Totally Biased: NYC Women Talk Cat Calling
Real life “Rosie the Riveter” - Tennessee, 1943.
GLORIFY THE SHIT OUT OF THIS IMAGE
Painting a more accurate version of history, one reblog at a time.
When I posted this archival image of a “real life Rosie the Riveter” one year ago, I had no idea it would resonate with so many people. 19K and counting.
Women’s complaints: We don’t make enough money, we’re hypersexualized, polticians vote over control of our bodies, we’re blamed for our own assaults
Men’s complaints: They keep saying they hate us
|guys:||uh why do girls care so much about being skinny? it's so annoying|
|guys:||ew fat chicks|
|guys:||why do girls care so much about shopping and romance and nail polish lol so annoying|
|guys:||ew crazy butch lesbian manly feminazis why can't they act more feminine lol|
|guys:||why do girls wear makeup they look so much better without it|
|guys:||oh i'm so sorry are you sick? tired? dying?|
|guys:||haha girls suck at math/science/sports|
|guys:||a girl who does math/science/sports? well? get back in the kitchen that shits not gonna get you a husband|
|guys:||why are girls so sensitive when we look at their boobs or something c'mon with that top you're asking for it|
|guys:||oh my god a gay guy just hit on me how fucking disgusting what a creeper doesn't he have any boundaries?|
When I am a showrunner I will only hire women writers.
— Shirley Manson on Madonna (via albinwonderland)
M.I.A. (via doublehelixnucleotide)
Role Model. BOOM.
The thing about MRA’s though is that they could actually be fighting for men’s rights and livliehoods that are challenged by patriarchy.
- They could help men of color who are hypermasculized while simultaneously being denied bodily autonomy through white supremacist heteropatriarchy, which inevitably leads to violence, poverty and exaggerated incarceration rates.
- They could help queer men by providing them with safe spaces and campaigning against the societal violence (ie. disproportionate homelessness, harassment, assault, denial of housing, state rights as couples, etc.) they experience.
- They could stand in solidarity with the trans* men that are having their reproductive rights stripped because mainstream patriarchal cissexism doesn’t recognize ovaries as not being indicative of one’s gender identity.
- They could faciliate outreach programs to men who are sexually and physically abused, because again, the notion that men are strong, resilient and unable to be harmed is rooted in patriarchy.
There are a whole host of things MRA’s could be and aren’t doing, because of course these people don’t actually care about anyone or anything but themselves and stroking their inflated egos. That’s why MRA’s are a joke.
Let me tell you a thing about domestic violence and abuse. Sometimes it takes a very long time for the victim to even realize they’re being abused. This could be happening to you and you wouldn’t know, the thought would cross your mind but you’d be in denial. “He/she loves me, he/she isn’t like that.” Sometimes its so gradual you don’t notice, or you make excuses for their little out bursts. You think its your fault, that you did something wrong to cause them to react that way. Sometimes you convince yourself its because they cared about you. Its possible that even after it happens and you get away from him/her, you still long for them in ways you shouldn’t, and you keep excusing the horrible things they did to you and blaming yourself for them.